I did it you all! I got fit for the summer season and I’m ready for all the summer activities. It’s amazing how great it is to feel so good about yourself when your fit.
I’m talking about mind body fitness. It’s been almost one year since I stopped dieting and I’ve never felt better. My mind has done a lot of stretching, a lot of heavy lifting, and it’s fitter than ever before.
About a year ago I decided that it was time to stop dieting and through working with my holistic health coach I was able to learn how to achieve happiness no matter what my body looked like and no matter what size pants I put on each day.
Freedom From No Dieting
The power to take action without feeling from restraint or control; personal liberty; the absence or release from ties. – Dictionary.com
That’s the best word I can use for this new outlook on life. Freedom.
I’m free from ever placing self-limiting rules that cause me harm.
I’m free from body shaming.
I’m free from being angry at myself for another year gone by without losing weight or the weight I “should” lose. (Hate that judgmental word “should”.)
I’m free from the self-hatred that comes from not feeling in control of myself and wondering why I don’t have self-control.
I’m free from the fear that gripped me when people would see that I gained weight again for the millionth time (slight exaggeration, but you know what I mean).
I’m free from wondering what new diet will finally work (because diets don’t work).
So yeah, I’m fit for summer season, because I’m not worrying what I look like and I’m not worrying about starting another diet to lose weight quickly before summer season.
- Showed my body some love
- Accepted myself as I am – I am perfect just as I am (my mantra)
- Started eating consciously
- Slowed down my eating
- …And some more empowering exercises that I’ve learned in coaching.
How You Can Get Fit Too
How many blogs have you scoured to figure out how you can shed those pounds quickly before it’s time for the summer clothes and vacations ahead? How many Pinterest boards have you perused to find the perfect body you want to model yourself after?
I get it. You’re reaching for the one thing you know will work this time. You’re hopeful, you're motivated, you have self-control, and you know that this time it will work. This new diet is going to save you.
Honey – let me stop you. It’s not. Only you can save you.
No diet is going to show you how to feel all the feelings you want to have when you lose those pounds.
No diet is going to show you how to be happy now.
No diet is going to allow you to learn how to reach down inside your gut and pull out the truth.
No diet is going to make you happy. Period. End of story.
You might think you’re happy while you’re losing weight and you might be happy when you’ve lost all the weight (I was), but then “life” gets in the way and you ultimately begin to go back to eating the way you did before you lost all the weight (I did).
So what do you do? How do you stop this craziness?
First, you have to be absolutely serious that you are done with diets and the craziness and want to leave that behind. This is a must!
Second, start to eat consciously. Eating consciously is simply listening to your body for what it wants to eat rather than bolting to the kitchen for food and eating in a numb state.
Third, read this book called “The Slow Down Diet” by Marc David. Hint, it’s not really a diet.
Fourth, hire a health coach to walk you step-by-step through this journey on a plan customized for you. Diets don’t do that – it’s a one size fits all. A coach will help empower you to find your happy now so you never have to diet again.
The truth is, I still have a lot of weight I would like to release in order to be more healthy. The difference between me wanting to be more healthy and wanting to lose weight by dieting is on opposite spectrums. No longer do I obsess about losing weight. Now I only think about how the foods I'm eating can help me to get healthier.
Since my mind is now healthy and I’m eating more consciously, the weight is starting to come off without me even thinking about it. How amazing is that!?!
If you’re serious about jumping off the hamster wheel of dieting, send me an email on my Contact page so we can set-up a time to talk about what it is exactly you want to achieve and how I might be able to serve you in that capacity.
As I'm sitting here writing this post I had a thought, “Oh, I haven't eaten in awhile, I should probably go eat.” But then I checked in with my body – something like this, “Am I hungry? Do I feel hungry? Are there any hunger pangs?” The answer was “no”.
I am somewhat amused that I kept thinking about eating, repeated the questioning on whether I was hungry, and then decided not to eat. The absolute coolest part of this is that it was pretty darn easy.
It hasn't always been that way though.
It was easy because I've been working through this “checking-in” with self to see what my body says before I do anything. It really is a day-by-day thing for me to react by listening to my body rather than automatically running for food, but guess what – it's getting easier! Each day that I have a success, each day that I work that listening muscle – I gain strength and the ability to push down the gut reaction to bolt for food.
So much of this is what I have learned through holistic health coaching along with learning to be completely present instead of always trying to live for the future. So many times I would tell myself, “If only I could get down to my goal weight, I will be happy”. There were many things I would say, “If only……I would be happy.”
What I have learned more than ever is to be happy now. Create happiness now regardless of the weight you are at and what weight you want to be in the future.
What do you love to do? Do whatever you love and enjoy yourself.
What foods do you enjoy eating? Eat it and relax.
Do you love going on a hike or cycling around the neighborhood? Do it!
What beautiful clothes can you wear? OMG – in the past I wouldn't buy new clothes because I thought I didn't want to spend so much money on clothes only to lose weight on the next diet and have wasted all those dollars on clothes that are now too big for me. It doesn't matter! Buy those clothes now. Enjoy yourself. Look beautiful NOW! Live for now. Don't put it off or else you might find yourself never having felt beautiful, loved, relaxed, and enjoy activities you cherish just because you don't weigh a specific amount on the scale.
Doesn't that kinda sound silly when you think about it? A stupid scale is determining your happiness and how you will live your life? Really?
Throw the scale away. Do it now! Stop reading this post, get up and go throw it away or at least put it in your attic. Don't let that scale run your life. It's a machine. It's not a part of you, it's not what makes you beautiful. It's not something to cherish, to love, to hold dear. It's not an extension of your beautiful spirit.
Instead start learning to trust your body again. Listen to it. Love it. Ask it questions.
This is how I think of it. If you look at your body as a house for your spirit, a living, breathing, body that came into this world as a child – it's a little child that you – your spirit – was given to take care of during your journey here on Earth. To me it's no different than me giving birth to a child and taking care of that baby. Loving it, teaching that child to love, teaching that child to play, to dance, to create happiness, and enjoy life. I would protect that child and not let anybody harm it or say nasty things to it. I would cherish the moments I had with that child knowing that one day, the child will be gone and life will change as I know it.
Now instead, replace child with “my body“:
Loving it, teaching my body to love, teaching my body to play, to dance, to create happiness, and enjoy life. I would protect my body and not let anybody harm it or say nasty things to it. I would cherish the moments I had with my body knowing that one day, my body will be gone and life will change as I know it.
How does that resonate with you?
Loving My Body in the Pursuit of Happiness
Ever since I decided to live for today, be happy today, my life has changed in such an amazing way. I feel so much gratitude and freedom living this way. Pursuit of happiness = Body Love!
- I gave up diets. No more diets. I eat what I want, when I want based on what my body needs. This is the checking-in method, I described earlier. I know you've already done this before. Think about when it's hot outside – what do you crave? Usually something cold, like melons, ice cream, salads, or sandwiches. When it's cold and windy outside it feels good to wrap your hands around a bowl of soup or make some chili. It's the same thing. Ask, then listen to your body. Learn to trust it again. I've embraced the uncertainty and because of that a whole new world has opened up.
- Through some incredible vision work I did with my coach, I wrote down all the activities and things in my life that I knew would create happiness for me. Then I started to implement these small little changes into my life daily – just a few at a time until every area of my life was effected by happiness each day. For instance, my skin really needed lotion from the dry weather in Arizona, so each day I made sure I rubbed lotion into my skin. I started meditating daily. I started walking more with Lily (my fur baby). I started enjoying foods again rather than going for the quick and easy. As I concentrated on happiness – my life started to change. Food started to play less of a role in my life.
I'm no where near my goal weight yet, but it doesn't matter anymore. I'm happy with who I am right now. Yes, I still want to have a healthier body which means carrying less weight – that hasn't changed – but how I get there has changed dramatically. Now I don't obsess about it or put my body through ridiculous exercises and deprivation of food to achieve wholeness. I'm happy. I'm perfect just as I am.
As I've learned how to change my perspective on dieting and weight loss, I've also received so many requests from women to help them through the same process. So I decided to enroll in the Institute for the Psychology of Eating. I asked all of you if anybody would be interested in being a part of my free coaching and to apply as a practice client. After reviewing numerous applications, I accepted four women into my free holistic health coaching session over the next 3 months.
I'm so THRILLED! Just so amazing how many of you were interested and how courageous you were to reach out for some help. I'm truly humbled to be a part of your journey.
I‘ll be opening up some spots in late February 2015 for additional clients. Join the wait list now to be notified as soon as spots open up for new clients.
Let me know how you are creating happiness in your life and how it effects your relationship to food below in the comments!
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