As I’m sitting here writing this post I had a thought, “Oh, I haven’t eaten in awhile, I should probably go eat.” But then I checked in with my body – something like this, “Am I hungry? Do I feel hungry? Are there any hunger pangs?” The answer was “no”.
I am somewhat amused that I kept thinking about eating, repeated the questioning on whether I was hungry, and then decided not to eat. The absolute coolest part of this is that it was pretty darn easy.
It hasn’t always been that way though.
It was easy because I’ve been working through this “checking-in” with self to see what my body says before I do anything. It really is a day-by-day thing for me to react by listening to my body rather than automatically running for food, but guess what – it’s getting easier! Each day that I have a success, each day that I work that listening muscle – I gain strength and the ability to push down the gut reaction to bolt for food.
So much of this is what I have learned through holistic health coaching along with learning to be completely present instead of always trying to live for the future. So many times I would tell myself, “If only I could get down to my goal weight, I will be happy”. There were many things I would say, “If only……I would be happy.”
What I have learned more than ever is to be happy now. Create happiness now regardless of the weight you are at and what weight you want to be in the future.
What do you love to do? Do whatever you love and enjoy yourself.
What foods do you enjoy eating? Eat it and relax.
Do you love going on a hike or cycling around the neighborhood? Do it!
What beautiful clothes can you wear? OMG – in the past I wouldn’t buy new clothes because I thought I didn’t want to spend so much money on clothes only to lose weight on the next diet and have wasted all those dollars on clothes that are now too big for me. It doesn’t matter! Buy those clothes now. Enjoy yourself. Look beautiful NOW! Live for now. Don’t put it off or else you might find yourself never having felt beautiful, loved, relaxed, and enjoy activities you cherish just because you don’t weigh a specific amount on the scale.
Doesn’t that kinda sound silly when you think about it? A stupid scale is determining your happiness and how you will live your life? Really?
Throw the scale away. Do it now! Stop reading this post, get up and go throw it away or at least put it in your attic. Don’t let that scale run your life. It’s a machine. It’s not a part of you, it’s not what makes you beautiful. It’s not something to cherish, to love, to hold dear. It’s not an extension of your beautiful spirit.
Instead start learning to trust your body again. Listen to it. Love it. Ask it questions.
This is how I think of it. If you look at your body as a house for your spirit, a living, breathing, body that came into this world as a child – it’s a little child that you – your spirit – was given to take care of during your journey here on Earth. To me it’s no different than me giving birth to a child and taking care of that baby. Loving it, teaching that child to love, teaching that child to play, to dance, to create happiness, and enjoy life. I would protect that child and not let anybody harm it or say nasty things to it. I would cherish the moments I had with that child knowing that one day, the child will be gone and life will change as I know it.
Now instead, replace child with “my body“:
Loving it, teaching my body to love, teaching my body to play, to dance, to create happiness, and enjoy life. I would protect my body and not let anybody harm it or say nasty things to it. I would cherish the moments I had with my body knowing that one day, my body will be gone and life will change as I know it.
How does that resonate with you?
Loving My Body in the Pursuit of Happiness
Ever since I decided to live for today, be happy today, my life has changed in such an amazing way. I feel so much gratitude and freedom living this way. Pursuit of happiness = Body Love!
- I gave up diets. No more diets. I eat what I want, when I want based on what my body needs. This is the checking-in method, I described earlier. I know you’ve already done this before. Think about when it’s hot outside – what do you crave? Usually something cold, like melons, ice cream, salads, or sandwiches. When it’s cold and windy outside it feels good to wrap your hands around a bowl of soup or make some chili. It’s the same thing. Ask, then listen to your body. Learn to trust it again. I’ve embraced the uncertainty and because of that a whole new world has opened up.
- Through some incredible vision work I did with my coach, I wrote down all the activities and things in my life that I knew would create happiness for me. Then I started to implement these small little changes into my life daily – just a few at a time until every area of my life was effected by happiness each day. For instance, my skin really needed lotion from the dry weather in Arizona, so each day I made sure I rubbed lotion into my skin. I started meditating daily. I started walking more with Lily (my fur baby). I started enjoying foods again rather than going for the quick and easy. As I concentrated on happiness – my life started to change. Food started to play less of a role in my life.
I’m no where near my goal weight yet, but it doesn’t matter anymore. I’m happy with who I am right now. Yes, I still want to have a healthier body which means carrying less weight – that hasn’t changed – but how I get there has changed dramatically. Now I don’t obsess about it or put my body through ridiculous exercises and deprivation of food to achieve wholeness. I’m happy. I’m perfect just as I am.
As I’ve learned how to change my perspective on dieting and weight loss, I’ve also received so many requests from women to help them through the same process. So I decided to enroll in the Institute for the Psychology of Eating. I asked all of you if anybody would be interested in being a part of my free coaching and to apply as a practice client. After reviewing numerous applications, I accepted four women into my free holistic health coaching session over the next 3 months.
I’m so THRILLED! Just so amazing how many of you were interested and how courageous you were to reach out for some help. I’m truly humbled to be a part of your journey.
I‘ll be opening up some spots in late February 2015 for additional clients. Join the wait list now to be notified as soon as spots open up for new clients.
Let me know how you are creating happiness in your life and how it effects your relationship to food below in the comments!